#1: the number of times we footed your bill for dinner or lunch because Matt is a generous man and felt guilty for inviting you out, even though you decided to come, when you claimed to be struggling financially should be a good enough indication that we were friends. Oh, and we bought a car from you.
#2: why not try being a man and 1- replying to a friend's texts and just being upfront about what's going on instead of totally ignoring him, and 2- addressing your issues sooner after you've been asked several times. And 3- "I'm a douchebag" is a pretty shitty explanation for why you didn't bother to reply back.
#3: why are you upset with us about moving? First of all, we have (as aforementioned) been generous friends to you, and appreciated your help moving and told you so. Secondly, yes, we wanted your fiance, particularly since she is tiny, to just hang out with Carsen while you helped us move furniture. Did she think she was going to take him somewhere? How? She doesn't have a carseat base for him; nor did she suggest it. If I seemed to be hovering, it's not because I don't trust her with Carsen but because I wasn't sure how to help with the moving given the amazing response in manpower we had helping us. And I didn't want her to feel ignored. Then SHE disappeared, without even saying goodbye, and you claimed she had to go help your sister with something. Yes, we also thought she was going to help us. What was up with that?
#4: frankly no one except Carsen's grandparents have watched him, except his daycare sitter during the workday. We just haven't had the need. Now, if you were available during the day when both of us are working, I'm sure we would have taken you up on your "multiple, multiple, multiple" offers to watch him. But otherwise we don't go out, or when we do, we take him with us or he gets to spend time with his grandparents. No offense to you. It didn't have anything to do with trust.
#5: but now it does. Now we don't trust you with him. Why are you being so crazy about how we haven't let you watch him? So yeh I guess now we can't be friends because now we don't trust you with our son.
#6: why don't you be honest with whatever this is really about? Obviously you're not trying to break up the friendship because you think we don't trust you to watch our son; obviously there is something else but you're making up this cheap, ridiculous excuse. GET THE F*** OVER YOURSELF! Stop wasting your time flattering yourself that we spend any amount of time thinking about whether or not you are good with our son. Get some f***ing self esteem. How many times since we've known you have you shown this ridiculous (and I suspect faux) insecurity -- "oh we thought you were mad at us. Oh we thought you didn't like how we were holding Carsen. Oh we thought maybe you didn't like what we made for dinner." The only thing we ever didn't like was that you aren't responsive, then come up with these ridiculous accusations why you avoided us.
#7: I hate dealing with crazies. I want so badly to text you because you've pissed me off. You took advantage of my sweet husband. You make crazy accusations against us. You hide behind your faux insecurity and cowardice. But Matt says there's no reasoning with crazies. And really, I just want to have the last word. But I'm sure I won't get it. Thus- blog post.
